As you've gotten older, you have probably spent a good bit of time noticing how things have radically changed from when you were a kid, and this most certainly includes your parents. Unfortunately, for some of us, the changes that come with the passage of time have made things harder for your parents, and now you have to start thinking about private care as a way to help them cope.
The toughest part of life is the 'getting older' part. You hear it all the time in movies, TV, and in music, but until you experience it, you never quite get what it's all about. When it comes to your parents being slowed down by getting older, it's hard to watch. Maybe you notice the gray hair coming in a bit more, Their dexterity is not what it used to be, and they may even be dealing with debilitating physical & mental illness. No matter how grown-up you are, seeing your parents have a hard time makes you feel like a five years old all over again.
So, you've started thinking about private care for your folks, but is it the right call to make? Well, there's quite a bit to consider:
Dealing with Strangers – You know your parents well. Are they good with new people coming into their space? Would they bristle at having a stranger get involved in their daily activities? Great private care services work with families to make sure any transitions are as seamless as possible.
Specific Needs – When you go over to help out, do you do basic things like get their medication lined up for a week or two? Do you bring over pre-made meals so that they do not have to worry about meal prep? These seem like small things, but it can be taxing after a bit. What's more, if your parents will need more help doing bigger things like bathing & dressing, will you be mentally ready for that?
Maintenance Independence – Is getting to doctor's appointments or going grocery shopping becoming problematic? If so, you & others might fill the void, but it can make those asking for a ride feel like they're imposing on their loved ones. Private care can help with this.
Insurance Coverage & Overall Cost – If the option of private care is a viable one, then it makes sense to find out how the numbers will work. It's not a fun topic to bring up for either the family or the care provider, but the right information can help you make a decision.
Finally, as you consider private care for your parents, it's important to have them be a part of the process, as well as the rest of the family. Perhaps the main reason that private care becomes a welcome option for many families is that try as they may, their own family can not keep up with the care they need. It comes off as failure to all parties. On one hand, the elder family members feel like a sudden, and kids & siblings feel as though they've let down Mom & Dad. Private care ends up being a way bringing peace of mind to the whole family.